Others blog about compassion winning those girls over to different ways of dressing and sharing. Others dive deeply in discussing modesty and proper dress. They try to define and motivate others to handle their bodies the way that is least offensive to the writers. The tactics are usually the same; guilt, shame, and ultimately, rejection.
They are watching and learning. And funny enough, - they get the message. –
You see, - by treating someone differently because they do or don't meet your standards, you really are telling them that their sexuality DOES prove their worth. Your standards are different than theirs, that's all. Maybe one woman finds her sexual worth in flaunting her gorgeous body, while you find yours in completely covering it (and wishing that everyone in your world would also). Both objectify, based in a dangerous value system.
He hung out alone and talked with the woman at the well who was a well known woman of the night. I love the story of him talking to the woman at the well. He knew what she looked like and who she was, and yet did not objectify her. He did not judge. He treated her with respect.
He may have been the first man in her life to look in her eyes and care more about her as person than what her appearance and reputation meant.
When meeting others, Jesus always cared far more about who they really were, than their sexual experiences. He cared about their hearts, about their wholeness.
I honestly don’t know how they could refuse such a God, because the more I know Him, the more I love who he is, and his never ending love for us all.
Of this I am confident, - the surest hope I have of letting them see the God I love; is letting him see God’s love for others begin with me.
(I want to clarify for those who haven't read other places where I address the fact that I DO take measures to protect my children from unhealthy sexual experiences or predation of others. This is not the issue I am addressing in this post. This post is addressing how we relate to others in our life, as young and old adults, and yes, our children are watching.
Forced sex, and sexual or physical abuse are NEVER ok, no matter how old or young a person may be. To learn more about what abuse is, and how to take steps toward health and recovery, please go here, here, or here.)