Thursday, September 26, 2013
Very interesting that this article came out as I have been discussing character development.
High school coach punishes whole team = how do you think the parent's reacted?
Example of public school staff who have students best interests and development as a whole in mind. I know so many fantastic teachers, and I know this battle is being fought in big and small ways all over the country.
Wednesday, September 25, 2013
Others blog about compassion winning those girls over to different ways of dressing and sharing. Others dive deeply in discussing modesty and proper dress. They try to define and motivate others to handle their bodies the way that is least offensive to the writers. The tactics are usually the same; guilt, shame, and ultimately, rejection.
They are watching and learning. And funny enough, - they get the message. –
You see, - by treating someone differently because they do or don't meet your standards, you really are telling them that their sexuality DOES prove their worth. Your standards are different than theirs, that's all. Maybe one woman finds her sexual worth in flaunting her gorgeous body, while you find yours in completely covering it (and wishing that everyone in your world would also). Both objectify, based in a dangerous value system.
He hung out alone and talked with the woman at the well who was a well known woman of the night. I love the story of him talking to the woman at the well. He knew what she looked like and who she was, and yet did not objectify her. He did not judge. He treated her with respect.
He may have been the first man in her life to look in her eyes and care more about her as person than what her appearance and reputation meant.
When meeting others, Jesus always cared far more about who they really were, than their sexual experiences. He cared about their hearts, about their wholeness.
I honestly don’t know how they could refuse such a God, because the more I know Him, the more I love who he is, and his never ending love for us all.
Of this I am confident, - the surest hope I have of letting them see the God I love; is letting him see God’s love for others begin with me.
(I want to clarify for those who haven't read other places where I address the fact that I DO take measures to protect my children from unhealthy sexual experiences or predation of others. This is not the issue I am addressing in this post. This post is addressing how we relate to others in our life, as young and old adults, and yes, our children are watching.
Forced sex, and sexual or physical abuse are NEVER ok, no matter how old or young a person may be. To learn more about what abuse is, and how to take steps toward health and recovery, please go here, here, or here.)
Friday, September 20, 2013
Wednesday, September 18, 2013
I quickly called the Dr.’s office and spoke to a woman who listened to my concerns and then proceeded to tell me to ice it again, told me she was sure I couldn’t see bone, and it was probably a piece of food, and talked about how everyone feels really bad on the third day, and did everything short of calling me a baby but in the nicest, medically confident sounding way possible.
By the time I’d finally worked up the courage to call my own dentist a little later hoping he could take a look; his office was already closed for the evening.
Why had I let someone I didn’t even know, who had no idea what the facts really were, talk me out of what I knew to be true?
Also, I have been thinking about what is true.
(I feel so sad, therefore I will eat this entire pound of chocolate) But the emotions themselves are valid. They are true. They are there to get our attention and force us to look at something we would otherwise ignore. They are like a check engine light in a car. Ignoring them or over riding them means internal damage is happening that WILL make progress impossible at some point in the near future.
Physical pain is a warning sign that something is wrong. Emotional pain is a warning that something is wrong. Both are real. Both are crucial to protecting life.
What I don’t know is how I believed certain teaching on what submission is for so long. I do not feel that I totally grasp what healthy, right submission is, however I know for certain what it is not.
It was not intended to weaken your strength, confidence or the warrior princess inside you.
Submission does not mean subjecting yourself or others to damage and hurt when it is in your power to choose otherwise.
Submission doesn't erase the commands of treating others with love and respect, and protecting the weak and vulnerable. Even when that includes yourself.
I do believe there is special comfort God offers those who are hurting. However, if you can do something about it; it does NOT qualify as justifiable, God honoring suffering. Living a life of choices that allow destruction in your life (even at the hands of others you love) is no more honoring to God than intentionally walking around with a pebble in your shoe and wearing a hole in the bottom of your foot.
Treating others with kindness and respect begins with how I choose to treat myself.
Allowing myself to be neglected, hurt, ignored, wronged, or left to suffer without a fight, is wrong. Expecting myself to be able to suck it up, deal with it and move on in times of hurt and pain is not a meek and quiet spirit. It is not love. It is not the heart of God.
By the way, - yes, - I called my local dentist early the next morning who got me in stat to flush and pack my dry socket (that had a LOT of exposed bone!!!!!) The remedy was quick and simple and the relief was amazing.
The internal process has taken longer, and been almost as painful, but has brought equally amazing relief.
How about you, present mom, dad, or single guy or gal?
You may also enjoy, 'Teaching Your Kids to Tell You 'NO'.
Saturday, September 7, 2013
Jesus told THEM that they were children of the devil.
Could there really be a God? Could he really love them!?
Even worse, they questioned his motives.
Some even claimed he was demon possessed.
God came to earth, and the most religious, most ‘holy’, noblest people on earth who had the inspired word of God in hand called him demon possessed.
In the same way, stood the righteous, the godly, the conservative, the upright.
How else were people to know the way to God, which he had clearly written down to the slightest little rule.
‘guidelines by which you can make sure your life reflects the love you have for God’,
- what if all of them didn’t matter a bit?
That is freedom talking.
Run to it. Stare it in the face.